Volume 4, Issue 10
May 16 - May 29, 2002
by Stephanie Glenn
Dear Stephanie,
I always read your articles in GO-GO here in Denver and I thought I would ask something
a little more tame. I am a 26-year-old guy, I am not bad looking. I have a good solid job, drive a
new vehicle and own my own home. I go out on the weekends to clubs and concerts, seven out of
ten times I get a phone number from a decent looking woman. Every time I call back I never
get a response. I have tried different methods, calling the next day in the afternoon all the way
to two to three days out. I can't figure this out. Is there something I am missing? I mean I am not
teenie-weenie as you would say, but by no means a porn star. Just the average guy looking for a
woman who enjoys some of the same things I do and wants to have fun. But I cannot get
them to call back, so why do they still give their phone number?
--Losing it
Dear Losing it,
It's hard to say what you are doing wrong, but there is obviously something since this always
happens to you. My gut tells me you are coming across too desperate. No one is interested in a
guy who projects a needy energy. Also, I don't think bars and concerts are the best places to try
to hook up. There is too much alcohol involved and some times when the beer goggles come out,
the numbers start flying. Of course, the next morning, when they have a crashing headache
and a bit of sense about them, they regret giving out their numbers and avoid your calls. I suggest
you find better places to meet girls, like the gym, coffee houses and spontaneously out and about.
Don't act as if it's life or death, just play cool and see what happens. By the way, why should I care if you are teenie-weenie or porn star-endowed? If this is happening to you before anyone finds out then that information is coming a bit too quickly, pardon the pun. And if you are sharing that info before you even start dating, then there's your answer as to why no one calls you back.
Dear Stephanie,
Why don't women like to watch X-rated movies? I like to do this sometimes and it seems most the
girls I know think it's disgusting. Any tips on how I can get my girl to go for it?
--The Amazing Sliderman
Dear Amazing Sliderman,
Porn is a sensitive subject for many women. If you could take an honest survey--men tend to
want it, most women tend to tolerate or hate it. The problem is most of these films are packaged
for a male audience, they are designed to show what the producers think men want to see. This
animalistic screwing is not generally what most women fantasize about. Perhaps sometimes, but
usually we have a bit more plot in mind.
Think about the movies you have seen and how little attention is placed on the female's pleasure. It's no wonder they turn women off with the selfish fuck-fest mentality that treats women no better than blow up dolls. Focus is on the money shot, and there is no concern about the woman getting there, or even close for that matter. This is why your problem exists--these videos leave women feeling dirty and cheap and sometimes even degraded. But there is a better way.
The first thing you need to do is expand your library to include more women-friendly films. If you could lure her with a promise of plot, sensuality and yes, attention to the clitoris she just might be convinced. Make it an event with wine, the movie and a whole lotta lovin' from you. Your choice of films is very important and I have a suggestion for you. Producer Andrew Blake takes a different approach to erotica. He began by asking what women really find sexy. And, sex... was sexy. However, sex is sexier with drop-dead beautiful actors, exotic locations, a story, and great music. Andrew Blake creates a fantasy world that makes down-and-dirty screwing look romantic. At around $25 each, it could be the least expensive and most erotic evening you've had in a while.
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