Volume 4, Issue 25
December 12, 2002 - January 8, 2003
by Stephanie Glenn
Dear Stephanie,
Your recent column in Go-Go Magazine caught my attention, as
I used to suffer severely from premature ejaculation. Not only was it
embarrassing but it was a damaging trait to say the least.
My wife is a very hot woman. She loves to fuck and she is built
so very fine. When I first met her, I was intimidated by her
aggressiveness sexually, plus I was turned-on by her body to the point that I
would cum in less than a minute of coitus or if she was giving me head.
How ridiculous is that? Needless to say, she was disappointed and,
obviously, not satisfied.
We saw several "experts" on the matter and we even went so far as
to hire a sexual "coach" that was referred to us by a counselor. In
the end, the technique that helped me (us) the most was one you
referred to in your column "Mind Over Matter."
As with most situations in life, a person's mental attitude and
approach are paramount to being successful. I loved my wife (then
girlfriend) to the point that I simply came to the conclusion that I knew
if I could not perform sexually with her, she would leave me. One day,
after months of incredible agony, stress, consideration and concentration, I lasted for 10 minutes
of hard-pounding intercourse. (10 minutes doesn't sound like much
until you compare it to 45 seconds! ) The next time we did it, I lasted over
12 minutes. It was simply "Mind Over Matter," and to this day (11+
years later), it still is.
I simply wanted to take a minute to tell you that you were RIGHT
ON in your column answers and feedback to Quick Willie.
--Marathon Man
Dear Marathon Man,
I'm so glad to hear that there are people out there utilizing the
most powerful tool we possess, mind power. In this day and age of instant
gratification, everyone is looking for the quick fix. There's a pill for
everything, and unfortunately, a price tag that comes along with that pill.
You are not the first person who has been referred to a coach. They are called sexual surrogates and they are trained to help you "hands on" with any sexual problem you encounter. I heard they can be quite helpful, however they are extremely expensive. I'm surprised there aren't millions of men out there taking advantage of this glorified prostitution, feigning sexual inadequacies for the privilege of legal exchange of sex for money.
Good job on your success and for those of you who still suffer from Two Pump Syndrome, remember that the other, less-used brain holds the solution to your little head's suffering.
Dear Stephanie,
I can't climax when I am being given oral sex. It feels incredible to
receive oral sex (to the point that it is completely overwhelming and I
have to make her stop), but without the orgasm there is no sense of
closure. My girlfriend has tried many times without success. She always
seems unhappy when she can't get me off. I got a dorsal slit about
two years ago so that my foreskin could go back all the way. The
procedure left me very sensitive and until about 5 months ago, I was
almost too sensitive to let her try. Lately I am much less sensitive and
everything she does to me feels terrific (to the point that I can't take
it anymore) Do you think that the overwhelming sensation that I get
is what inhibits my orgasms? Is there anything that I can do to help
her? Or is there something that she can do to help me?
-- Sensitive Guy
Dear Sensitive Guy,
Just like the guy I just responded to, you can make this situation better with a little mind control. Look at the first sentence in you letter. You are already telling me and yourself that you CAN'T climax with oral sex. If you tell yourself you can't, then that's exactly what' s going to happen. Start thinking that you can, and in your mind see yourself getting off orally. That is the first step. The reason you are getting so sensitive is that you are getting close and you need to relax through that sensation and you will soon find yourself having a climax. Women experience this sensitivity when their G-spots are initially stimulated, and unfortunately, most of them will make the guy stop. But just beyond this sensation lies the release. Be patient, learn to relax and most importantly, only think positive thoughts about your abilities.
Have a question? Contact Stephanie Glenn at sirenweb@aol.com , or visit her at StephanieGlenn.com.
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