Volume 5, Issue 1
January 9 - January 22, 2003
by Stephanie Glenn
Dear Stephanie,
One year ago I was engaged to
be married. Thank GOD things did
not work out-- due to me walking
in on him and his x-girlfriend in
our bed, and much more. I'm still
not over it and have been scared to
really give myself to anyone since.
I've dated, just casual sex and
friendship-type relationships until
now. I started sleeping with this
guy I've known for almost 5 years.
Girl, let me tell you, I never knew
the definition of multiple orgasms
until now. The only thing is, he is
a total playboy. I knew this going
in to the "friendship," but really
thought all of my emotions were
buried. "Don't get attached," I kept
telling myself. "It is just good sex."
Well, I am starting to really like
the guy and I'm afraid I'm going
to get hurt. Is it just the sex I'm
interested in or is it that I love the
challenge to get the playboy?
Playboy Hunter D
Dear Playboy Hunter D,
Anytime you'e having great sex,
not to mention multiple orgasms,
there is going to be a little bit of
attachment. It may not even be him
you're attached to, but the amazing
feeling you have basking in the afterglow. The main thing to remember is
there is no real challenge in "getting
the playboy." They are playboys,
after all, everyone gets them. That's
why he has the mad skills! Lower
your expectations of him and think
of him as nothing more than a sex
toy. Would you be afraid that your
superdeluxe, battery-operated rabbit
would break your heart? No way!
You would just use it whenever you
need those multiples and put it away
without another thought and get back
to the business of living your life.
No one can hurt us unless we let
them.
Dear Stephanie,
My boyfriend has a major foot
obsession. He prefers it over every
other form of sex especially vaginal
penetration. I'm getting so tired
of it. His favorite thing to do is
masturbate while I put my feet on
his balls. He does this several times
a day but won't attempt to do anything for me and makes excuses to
not have sex. What do you think of
this type of problem?
Lacking Satisfaction
Dear Lacking Satisfaction,
Which problem? His foot fetish,
or your willingness to stay in a
relationship that gives you nothing
in return? I don't see any fetish as
a problem. Selfishness, on the other
hand, is a huge issue, a relationship
buzz-kill. If he doesn't want to do
anything to please you and won't
even have sex with you then you
need to figure out why you choose
to stay. In the meantime, I would
wear big, fuzzy slippers to bed and
withhold your feet from him the way
he has been withholding everything
else from you.
Dear Stephanie,
I am in a broken record relationship story. While first dating
a woman the sex is frequent and
great. After 6 months or so, she
doesn't want sex as much and seems
like I have to twist her arm for it.
This just didn't happen once, but
every relationship I've been in. Am
I just having bad luck, or are most
women like this?
Forever Frustrated
Dear Forever Frustrated,
Since you say this has happened
in every relationship, you need to
take notice of the fact that the only
common denominator is you. Is there
something you do in the beginning,
that you stop doing when the relationship hits the comfortable phase?
So many times men and women alike go all out the first few weeks
of a relationship with the compliments, flirting, gifts, and oral pleasures. Unfortunately, those things
start tapering off and monotony sets
in. It is up to you to not let that
happen, especially on the oral pleasures part. Keep the activities and
conversation fun and fresh and you
will keep them interested sexually.
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